I Don’t Visit My Son
Let me say this plainly: I don’t visit my son. I had to check somebody on that recently while filling out paperwork. The form asked about “visitation” and who the “custodial parent” was. Nah. That might sound small to some people, but it’s not. That’s how the system quietly frames fathers before we even open our mouths. In Colorado, we don’t even use those terms anymore—at least not legally. There’s no “custody.” There’s no “visiting parent.” There is parental responsibility . There is parenting time . That’s intentional. That shift in language is supposed to reflect something real: both parents matter. But here’s the problem— the culture hasn’t caught up to the law . So what happens? You get professionals still using outdated language. You get systems still thinking in outdated roles. And worst of all—you get fathers who don’t push back. Let me be clear: If you don’t check the language, the language will check you. Calling it “visitation” makes you sound ...